You, and your mental dialogue

The truth is that most of life will unfold in accordance with forces far outside our control, regardless of what your mind says about it. Everyone knows this. But still, we have a mental dialogue going on inside our head that never stops.

“A mental dialogue?” Is that what you’re hearing yourself saying right now?

Well, for example: “Wasn’t I supposed to call Fred? I should have. Oh my God, I can’t believe I forgot! He’s going to be só mad. He may never talk to me again. But wait, maybe if I call him right now? Better late than never, right? .. ”

Meet ‘The Voice’. Who, if you want personal growth, is worth it to get to know better. I’m sure the example has happened to you before and I’m also sure that at some point you must’ve thought that the one thing ‘the voice’ was saying was you, and that the other thing (referring to the dialogue) wasn’t you. At that point, you lost your objectivity. According to Michael A. Singer you lose your objectivity because you may want to think of yourself as the part that said the nice things, but that’s still the voice talking. You may liked what it said, but it’s NOT you. Basically what you should do, according to Michael, is stop feeling that the one thing it says is you and the other thing it says is not you.

If you’re hearing it talk, it’s obviously NOT you.

So, a mental dialogue. Yes. Incessant internal chatter. Yes. Why does this happen? When you take a step back and just notice it, you’ll see that the voice is in fact narrating the world for you. The narration makes you feel comfortable with the world around you. It actually gives you the chance to label and judge what you just saw or experienced. By verbalizing it mentally you brought the direct experience into the realm of your thoughts and they instantly become integrated with your other thoughts such as those making up your value system and historical experiences.

Bottom line: it’s all about control.

The real truth: ‘There is no use for that incessant internal chatter, and there is no reason to constantly attempt to figure everything out.’ Think of it as: It’s like sitting down at night deciding whether you want the sun to come up in the morning. The sun WILL come up and the sun WILL go down. Life will unfold. So you can think about it all you want, but life is still going to keep happening. If you’re willing to be objective and watch all your thoughts, you will see that the vast majority of them have no relevance.

They have no effect on anything or anybody, except you.

They are simply making you feel better or worse about what is going on now, what has gone on in the past, or what might go on in the future. And here’s a thing: “In some cases the mental voice talks for the same reason that a teakettle whistles. There’s a buildup energy inside that needs to be released. If you watch objectively, you will see that when there’s a buildup of nervous, fearful, or desire-based energies inside, the voice becomes extremely active. That voice talks because you’re not okay inside, and talking releases energy.”

So what if reality is just too real for most of us and we try to temper it with the mind?

Michael A. Singer says this because he believes that in ‘the thought world’ there is always something you can do to control the experience. But in the end all these thoughts intermix and influence your experience of the world around you. Your consciousness is experiencing your own personal presentation instead of the unfiltered experience of what is really out there. Your own mental model of reality, not reality itself.

Bron: The Untethered Soul – Michael A. Singer